Before we consider what a healthy relationship looks like, it might be worth considering what an unhealthy or toxic relationship looks like.
A toxic relationship can include some or all forms of domestic and family violence. This means physical abuse (such as punching, pinching, or slapping), sexual abuse (any form of forced or unwanted sexual activity), financial abuse (such as some form of money control), emotional abuse (taking away independence, self-esteem, and confidence), verbal abuse (like name-calling), stalking or harassment. Domestic and family violence usually runs in a cycle (tensions building, then an incident, before reconciliation and then a false calm) and it can get worse over time. Those things are never okay and there is support if you find yourself in a relationship with one or more of those things.

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he's creating a false " calm" so that you let your reserve down thinking he has changed---and when he feels it's safe that you won't leave, he'll Amp up the chaos again.
https://www.reddit.com/r/NarcissisticSpouses/comments/12p2r6...

On a purely physiological level, we can’t maintain this state of high anxiety for very long. Eventually the alarm bells will simmer down to something that feels like calm. This isn’t the true calm that arrives after working long and hard facing our fears. Rather, it’s the calm that follows the dramatic and intense storm of the first stage. It’s where psyche (soul) and soma (body) settle into a manageable state that might be characterized more by numbness or indifference than true calm.

When you fall into the cultural mindset that says, “Doubt means don’t” or “True love is effortless” you will naturally assume that the anxiety – and the subsequent state of false calm – means that you have to leave.
https://conscious-transitions.com/this-is-the-roadmap-of-rel...